Why The Fear ??!

This topic has came to my mind a lot before ..but I never thought of writing about it until today;after having a conversation with one of my friends about relationships & commitment.

I decided that I want to write about it ...May be that will help me not think about it any more. :)

I Have always wondered about: Why a lot of People (specially Men ..with all my respect :D ) fear about being committed ??! Why do some of them just "Freak Out" when they think of the word "Marriage" and all what comes with it of meaning ?!

Of course some women do too ..But Women are always more ready for Sharing ,Starting a family & being responsible for a home & children.

Even in the Movies ! (specially the american ones :D) ...
Two people may love each other very much, they are happy with each other , They even may live together & do things together ... They Almost Share Everything together!

But once one of them start thinking about marriage & Commitment ..ohhhh No! They start Freaking out & Going back to not being ready !! (what the ...?!!)

What I really mean here is that Life is all about being Committed to many & different things.

I see it as follows:

-Any one who has a family is Committed to his family (whether his father ,Mother, brothers, sisters ,cousins....etc ) ...He/she just can't come one day & say: Sorry that's enough..I am bored of being part of this family & I will search for another .

-Any one who Love his job is committed to his job & to the Company he is working for.

(May be some will tell me that Committed = Forever...& no one will stay in his same job or company like Forever !...But I tell u It is Definitely a kind of Commitment).

-Any one who has Friends , Is also Committed to his Friends to some extent.

-Even someone who is Doing a Project /Assignment at a company ,College or Even A Personal one , He/ She is Committed to that Project till it is finished!

- A Church you go to all your life, A school , A University....You will keep on saying: That is MY CHURCH..MY School & MY University that I graduated from ...It just will remain with u for the rest of your life. .......................Isn't that a Kind of Commitment?!

Measure upon that a lot of things that we do everyday of our lives...We will find that Life is ALL About Commitment but may be with different ratios.

So returning to our Question ...Why the Fear of commitment when it is around us in different figures & different shapes ?!

I don't think that I am the only one who sees it that way ..But I will also appreciate it if someone has different opinion than mine ...I will be happy to hear it.

Is it about Maturity ?!...

Is it about Priorities in Life ?! ...

Is it about taking the right decisions at the right time ?!...

(Although I never believed about Knowing Exactly what's the right time to do anything because life is really unexpectable!. )

Is it about bad experiences that people hear or see every day around them ?!

Is it a Psychological thing ?!

I really don't know...I wish I would find out one day.. :)

That's just a little brainstorming that happened to be going in my mind today.

Thanks to my friend :D... because it has been a while since I last thought of something to write about in my Blog.

About Life...

Just Wanted to Be Reminded of that all the time,so I thought of sharing it...

Graduating that Soon!! :D

In a sleepless night , I decided to write ....I decided I won't write a lot because I just want to Highlight a new turning point in My life...GRADUATION..............................YaaaaaY :D!!

This week has been a busy week Preparing & Celebrating a new Checkpoint in my life....

Starting with the Rehearsal for the Graduation on 8/10/2010,The Grand Graduation Ceremony on 9/10/2010, a Cozy Celebration party with one of my Friends Family on 10/10/2010 & Finally the After Grad party on 11/10/2010.

Me & my Friends..After five Years of Hard Work ...We are Finally Graduating!!!

If u asked me now : & what Do u feel about that ?!!!!

I will Spontaneously say : I Don't know :D!

It is Actually a Complicated Mixed Feeling!...

It is a Mixed Feeling of JOY, RELIEF, SUCCESS, may be a little FEAR, MISSING my Friends, EXCITEMENT for a new start & LONGING for Good Old Days.

Quoting one of My favorite Songs :"Those were the Days My Friends....We Thought they never End =) "

But Unfortunately they have ended :) ....But Ended With a Lot of Good Stuff, Great Friends, Wonderful Memories & A New Start.

OR Let Me Say: A New Level Of Our Lives has Just Begun...A More Serious One...With new Rules ,New Restrictions & New Friends :).....A Wise Man Once Said: "Make New Friends But always Keep the Old , Because some of them are Silver & the Others are Gold ;)"

Last But Not least, I would like to end what I just wrote with a Sentence I heard before in a Graduation Video That inspired me a lot :

"Graduation is Not the End ...IT is the BEGINNING" :)

Never Let go Of Ur Dreams!

I have always wanted to have a dream to follow…Something to be inspired with..SOmething to hold On to!
I guess that dreams sometimes play a big role in directing people’s life or shaping it.
Having a dream that u want to achieve is like drawing a path that u want to follow… Sometimes this path is a hard one , Sometimes it is an easy one, BUT what matters the most is that: Are U Strong Enough to hold on till the end, till u achieve it ?!!
Or after one, two,or three problems u start to surrender, fall & don’t want to continue ?!
I guess we all have sometimes that we don’t want to continue, we become weak enough to stand again & continue our path! May be even we cry from the stress or the load of the path , & What we choosed before became what we may refuse now .
Here Comes the role of your Beloved Ones …may be it is a father, a mother or a brother, Or a dear friend.
They are the ones who put u again on ur track . They are the ones who can give u a PUSH in ur way in order to be able to continue.

But there is Also another very important One that I must not forget ! It is God !
Whether u Really believe in it or not , it is trueee that if u tried to continue your way to your dream or goal alone , it will be very Difficult & Nearly IMPOSSIBLE!
But if u have someone to trust in, depend on, be sure that will guide u & help u …it will really be much easier!
That’ not just a theoritical talking …That’s based on more than one experience in my life.
U may say so why then not to depend on just a friend or a family member ?!!
I will tell u that whoever u depend on, will not give u the support or the inner peace given by God..& u can easily try it !
Besides people can easily disappoint u. …They may Get Busy in their lives that they aren’t free for ur problems ,Or Simply they stop caring & then u will not be able to force them to help u !

But God will never get busy & will never stop caring …He may let you experience some problems or some pain for a while ..but Be Sure that’s always for a reason….& in many cases it is for a good reason not a bad one !(Believe it or not!)Because I believe very much in the Quote that says ” God Doesn’t Play Dice!”.

So, whenever u Feel Tired & can’t continue any more , Just Remember that GOd is Always there waiting for u to tell Him : Please Help!

JUST NEVER LET GO OF YOUR DREAMS!

That’s What I need to remember Specaily right now !

I am saying it God, Please Help me …I need u!

Follow ur Heart Or Follow ur Mind ?

Should u follow ur heart or Follow ur mind ??

A Question that comes to my mind a lot of times ..& I keep thinking & Thinking & thinking till I find an answer :D Or I just stop out of boredom from thinking !

==>If u Followed ur heart to the maximum ,It is sure that u will do wrong things…& ur mind at this time will not have any meaning…Although the word “WRONG” don’t have a special definition !!!
U Can see that doing something is wrong while someone sees that if u DIDN”T DO this thing that will be the wrong thing!!How Confusing huhh?!!
But If we should follow our heart All the Time then Why did God Gave us the mind ??I think that he gave it to us for a reason !!& we should use it …

==>If u followed ur Mind All the Time,You will not have Fun in many situations & u will miss many things in life…Hmmm Interesting!!!

==>if u followed ur heart all the time then people will c u as a Maniac & crazy ….

==>if u followed ur Mind all the time then u will be tooo ideal without any experiences & may be people say about u that u r crazy too & u r an extreme person.:s

SOOO,then what ?!!I don’t know the answer actually ..May be we should be part A heart follower & part a Mind follower…But is that Possible??!!!
Yaaa I think that it is possible…May be some people say "NO U can't Be Both at the same time" ..U can either be this or that !!!!!!Because the heart always goes against the Mind…

I Believe that I should follow my heart when it takes but Stop when it is necessary to !!
In other words, I Follow my heart in all the cases that is related to me only…But in the things that include other people or that will affect other people…I have to take care!!At least that is what i think!!
At last there is nothing that is “Totally Wrong “or “Totally right”!!& I think this is a 2 sided sword..or that is what makes it difficult..

Enough thinking for now…I guess I will follow my heart in the next coming thing…At Least For a change From thinking :D…

Your Secret

I liked this video very much & thought of sharing it .

Hope u like it as much as I did =)

Your secret from Jean-Sebastien Monzani on Vimeo.

Life is short...

Don’t get Pessimistic after reading this post’s title..& decide u don’t want to read the

post….because I am not telling that in order to make u feel down. .. Absolutely! :)

I am saying that in order to JUST LET YOU THINK once & twice before u become angry with someone or start hating someone for any reason…whether it is a good reason or a sim

ple & tiny reason!

Before u decide that u r angry with that person & that u will never talk to him/her again

…. U will never take the first step to apologize ……Just ask ur self these simple questions:

what will u ever benefit from that ?!!

what if something really bad happened to that person the next day u decidedu will not talk to him/her again ?!!! will u feel happy?! ....OR even Happened to ME ?!

Or will u really regret it that u did this…& that the last thing he remembered about u was; that you told him u hated him/her or u r not friends anymore …?!!

I assure u that it is really NOT WORTH IT !
It all goes very fast ….everything in life !One second u r totaly healthy & u like it ………& suddnely …..atchooooooo ….u catch a cold ! (& that’s the simplest that can happen of course!)
Another u r driving ur car safely in the street ….& suddenly and unexpectedly….u make an accident !
One minute ur friend is calling u on the phone & u don’t want to pick up because u r mad at him/her …….& the minute after u hear he/she did an accident after hanging up on u ...or that one of her Family is really sick!

It all happens in seconds really! & no body can prevent it...
It happened to me more than once….& every time it happens …I can’t believe it is happening again!
& I am really afraid that next time it happens with someone really close to me…& something really bad!

So, This is to remind myself before reminding anyone of you…..that Life is really too short to be mad at anyone….it is really not worth it to hate people….it is not worth it to be even angry at them! or Envy them for anything...I remember a quote that says"Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about."...which I believe is very true.
Anybody can leave this world at any second…& when it happens neither me/you nor the person that I am mad with will be happy about it..

Last but not least, “You never Lose by loving,You always lose by Holding back”... Always Remember the beautiful verse from the Bible that says "Love Never Fails". :)